E086 · Anxiety, uncertainty & threat
Distress when being observed or evaluated
What might be happening when performing, speaking, eating, working or simply being noticed by other people makes it substantially harder for a young person to participate?
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Overview
Being observed changes a situation.
A young person may perform something successfully:
- alone
- with a trusted adult
- in a small familiar group
and find the same activity dramatically harder when other people are watching.
The difficulty may involve fear of:
- making a mistake
- appearing anxious
- being laughed at
- being judged
- attracting attention
- not knowing how other people will react
- being visibly different.
This can affect much more than formal performances.
A young person may struggle when:
- answering a question
- reading aloud
- eating in front of others
- entering a room
- playing sport
- changing for PE
- showing their work
- asking for help.
NICE specifically identifies difficulty doing things while others watch — including sport, performances, answering questions and reading aloud — as relevant when assessing social anxiety in young people. (1)
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What this might look like
A young person might:
- know an answer but not raise their hand
- perform much worse when watched
- refuse to read aloud
- avoid presentations
- become distressed before performances
- stop eating around peers
- find PE particularly difficult
- avoid demonstrating a skill publicly
- become highly self-conscious when entering a room late
- repeatedly rehearse before speaking
- monitor whether other people are looking at them
- blush, shake, sweat or feel physically unwell
- avoid unfamiliar adults
- replay afterwards how they think they appeared.
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Developmental expression
At this stage
Early childhood
Awareness of social evaluation is still developing. Some young children enjoy adult attention while others become inhibited in unfamiliar or highly scrutinised situations.
Early childhood
Awareness of social evaluation is still developing. Some young children enjoy adult attention while others become inhibited in unfamiliar or highly scrutinised situations.
Middle childhood
Peer comparison becomes increasingly important and school introduces frequent public evaluation through answers, reading, sport, attainment and behaviour.
Early adolescence
Awareness of peer judgement often increases substantially. Appearance, competence, belonging and embarrassment can become especially salient.
Later adolescence
Examinations, interviews, employment, presentations, relationships and public-facing activities create increasingly consequential forms of evaluation.
Choose each stage to see how the presentation and surrounding expectations may change over time.
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Strengths and differences
Sensitivity to evaluation can coexist with:
- strong self-awareness
- conscientiousness
- thoughtful preparation
- care about quality
- awareness of other people's perspectives
- humility.
Nor should willingness to perform publicly become Phoenix's definition of confidence.
Someone can be highly competent, secure and socially connected while preferring privacy.
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Top tips for support
- Ask whether public performance is necessary for the learning objective.
- Give advance warning rather than unexpectedly selecting the young person.
- Allow rehearsal.
- Offer alternative ways to demonstrate learning.
- Begin with audiences the young person experiences as safer.
- Avoid public correction.
- Reduce unnecessary ranking and comparison.
- Do not treat embarrassment as trivial.
- Address actual bullying or ridicule.
- Agree goals with the young person rather than assuming greater public visibility is always desirable.
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Things needing careful planning
E086 requires perhaps our strongest institutional-context check yet.
Schools are environments of continual observation and evaluation.
Young people are:
- watched
- questioned
- assessed
- compared
- ranked
- corrected
- reported on.
Some distress under those circumstances may reflect the young person's anxiety.
Some may reflect a genuinely hostile or humiliating evaluative environment.
NICE explicitly recommends assessing peer victimisation and wider home, school and social factors when considering social anxiety. (1)
Phoenix should therefore never formulate:
“How do we make this young person less bothered about being judged?”
without also asking:
“How are people actually judging them?”
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Practical support principles
Useful support may include:
- predictable participation
- private feedback
- rehearsal
- smaller audiences
- alternative response routes
- reduced public comparison
- psychologically safe classroom cultures
- gradual exposure where the young person wants greater access
- CBT-informed specialist intervention where appropriate
- direct action against bullying or humiliation.
From understanding to support
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Often useful
- psychologically safe participation
- relational practice
- anxiety-informed adaptations
- alternative demonstration of learning
- anti-bullying and belonging approaches
Worth considering
- CBT for social anxiety
- graded exposure
- self-compassion approaches
- communication support.
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Evidence and cautions
For diagnosed social anxiety disorder in children and young people, NICE recommends individual or group CBT that can include exposure to feared social situations and opportunities to rehearse relevant skills. It also states that treatment should focus on agreed emotional, educational and social goals and attend to the wider environment. (1)
That matters for Phoenix.
Exposure is not a licence for institutions to manufacture humiliation.
An intervention should increase the young person's capability to access situations that matter to them — not merely increase their tolerance of unnecessary surveillance or public judgement.
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Public evidence sources
- Social anxiety disorder: recognition, assessment and treatment — NICE guideline.
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Possible explanatory lenses
Relevant possibilities include:
- social anxiety
- performance anxiety
- shame
- perfectionism
- rejection sensitivity
- bullying or humiliation
- communication differences
- speech differences
- previous public failure
- cultural norms around public performance
- actual features of the evaluative environment.
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